Funeral Service And Wake Etiquette

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Finding out that someone you care about has died can be very upsetting. If it's someone you were close with, you'll probably want to attend the funeral service. This gives you a chance to pay your respect, give your regards to family and friends, and spend time discussing your favorite memories. While attending a funeral can be difficult and even stressful, you will have other people there to support you as you deal with the emotions that you're feeling. This guide will help you better understand proper funeral service and wake etiquette.

Funeral Service

The funeral service is also known as a memorial service. During this time, the person who died is honored and their life is discussed. Most people look at a funeral as a celebration of life, as it highlights the accomplishments of the deceased and it gives attendees a chance to reflect. Unless the funeral is listed as a private family affair, it's appropriate to attend. Here are some etiquette tips to follow:

  • There is no need to wear black — but do dress respectfully. 
  • Be respectful and don't talk during the service.
  • Keep your phone away and turned off during the service. 
  • Arrive a few minutes early.
  • Sign the guestbook. 


The wake is where everyone will gather, usually a day or two before the funeral service is held. The social gathering is typically a bit more relaxed than the funeral service. This might be held at someone's house or at a funeral home. There may be a speech made or a religious scripture read during a wake. Here are some etiquette tips to follow:

  • Plan to stay at least 10-15 minutes. If you have to leave early, that's okay.
  • Give your respects and talk to family members.
  • If there are photos set up, you can take some time to view them. 

While it can be uncomfortable to attend a funeral service or a wake, it means a lot to the family and friends of the deceased. It's a way to show that you care and that you're there for them during this very difficult time in their life. It's also a nice way to honor the life of your loved one or friend and remember all the good times that you shared together. If you ever find yourself needing to plan a funeral or have questions about funeral services or wakes, reach out to a funeral home like Conboy-Westchester Funeral Home Inc.


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